I caught myself this morning wanting to tell my son if only he wouldn't make such a drama about getting dressed then we'd have more time for other fun stuff. Aha! Drama! Don't I know it so well and so intimately! Those moments when I moan and groan about getting out of bed earlier than I want to or point my finger at others who don't get things done as fast as I think they should or quickly do something for my son because it's easier than having the patience to let him do it for himself! Oh me! The victim to time, the perpetrator of judgements and the rescuer of the 'needy'!
It would be so much simpler to get up out of bed and get on with my day, instead of moan and groan and drag my feet. Without the drama my life would indeed have more space for fun, presence, connection, fulfillment, etc. So why choose drama instead of presence? Why choose to be a victim to tiredness rather than the creator of my experience? Honestly?! Drama sometimes is more comfortable, in a weird kind of way... In it, I don't need to be responsible for my experience of life; I don't get to experience the risk of failure; and I most certainly don't need to take a good hard look at myself and make the changes in me that I want to see in others and in the world.
Yet... for all these payoffs, drama isn't really comfortable! It's muddy, sticky, painful and draining. There's only so many times I want to hear myself moan or only so long that I want to wallow in self-pity and victim-hood. Ultimately, the imperative to live, to thrive, to shine and grow moves me out of this sludge of drama into a state of willingness to shift into presence. A willingness to accept myself where I'm at whilst also connecting with the force within me that is eternally blissful and conscious. In this presence and connection to my intrinsic self, I am able to co-create my experience of life, take an empowered stand for love and truth, and challenge myself and others to grow into that which we came here to be!
I am grateful to the Karpman's drama triangle, Emerald's T.E.D. (The Empowerment Dynamic) and the Conscious Leadership Group for giving me easy-to-apply tools and knowledge with which to accept myself and shift my state of being from drama to loving presence. And, today for which I am also thankful, I got to notice my drama-entangling thoughts and shift myself enough that I could see his need for connection and just be with him with more presence and love.
If anyone would like to know more, to get support transforming drama into empowerment, please reach out. It would be my privilege and joy to support you. Believe it or not, it can actually be quite a fun process with lots of laughs and unexpected realisations.