This morning, I caught myself wanting to tell my son that if he wouldn’t make such a drama about getting dressed, we’d have more time for fun. Aha! Drama! I know it all too well. Those moments when I moan and groan about getting out of bed earlier than I want to, or when I point fingers at others for not moving quickly enough, or even when I do things for my son because it’s easier than having the patience to let him do it himself—oh me! I become the victim of time, the perpetrator of judgments, and the rescuer of the 'needy.'
It would be so much simpler to just get out of bed and start my day, rather than moan, groan, and drag my feet. Without the drama, my life would indeed have more space for fun, presence, connection, and fulfillment. So why do I choose drama instead of presence? Why be a victim to tiredness rather than a creator of my experience? Honestly, drama can feel more comfortable in a strange way. It’s like wearing a cozy, old sweater that’s a bit too tatty—familiar, but not exactly flattering. In it, I avoid responsibility for my life, sidestep the risk of failure, and escape the need to take a hard look at myself and make the changes I want to see in others and the world.
Yet, for all its perceived comfort, drama isn’t truly comfortable. It’s like wading through a murky bog—sticky, heavy, and utterly draining. There’s only so many times I want to hear myself moan or wallow in self-pity before I start to feel like I’m sinking deeper into that bog myself. Ultimately, the imperative to live, thrive, shine, and grow pushes me out of this murky bog into a state of willingness to shift into presence. It’s like finally stepping out of the bog and into a sunlit meadow—refreshing and full of possibilities!
In this state of presence, I can co-create my experience of life, take an empowered stand for love and truth, and challenge myself and others to grow into who we are meant to be. I am grateful for the Karpman drama triangle, Emerald's T.E.D. (The Empowerment Dynamic), and the Conscious Leadership Group. These tools have provided me with the knowledge to accept myself and shift my state of being from drama to loving presence.
Today, I noticed my drama-entangling thoughts and shifted my mindset enough to see my son’s need for connection. I was able to be with him more fully, with presence and love.
If anyone would like to know more or seek support in transforming drama into empowerment, please reach out. I assure you it can be an enjoyable experience - akin to sailing on a gentle sea with laughter and surprising insights, rather than navigating through a stormy one.
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